Dating a quadriplegic
Now that I’ve disclosed his quadriplegia to yet another stranger, added his image to the stack in my coworker’s internal card catalog, my husband is no longer afforded idiosyncrasies or individual traits—someone who writes me love letters and teaches improv and is very Virgo about our towel situation, and who, unlike me, is quiet and unassuming in grad seminars.
Put yourself out there, build your profile, share your interests and you will soon have people wanting to know more about you.
Take the opportunity provided by online dating and 'meet' new people without the trouble of travel.
I don’t remember appointments, I’m the household member voted Most Likely to Leave Out the Dishes Indefinitely, and I certainly don’t make the bulk of the phone calls.
Still, being the ostensibly able-bodied partner to a physically disabled person comes with its fair share of emotional labor.
Here's a look at some of our latest members: Our members are different to the average person looking for love. Whatever their disability happens to be, they are all unique. Having a disability doesn’t make you 'different' here - it is your unique personality that does that.
Specialising in matchmaking for disabled people allows us to move beyond the disability, the conversation doesn't have to start with explaining what condition you have.We all have collections of stills in our minds, people we gather as representatives of groups we don’t fully understand: a fervent doll-collecting aunt, the neighbor’s boyfriend who had that rare disorder.They, along with predictable images in the media, form image clusters that make up prototypes, patterns from which we will only deviate if we’re radically convinced.This is not part of the wheelchair story strangers and Hollywood and breathless romances want to tell. When I lie awake at night, the honest-to-god truth is that I don’t fantasize about miracle cures and redemption songs. Ramps leading up to showers and houses and waterfalls, to haunted hayrides and carriages and job interviews and Capitol Hill.I wrote a story about my depression and PTSD against the backdrop of a ghost town in a desert we’d visited and shared it with a creative writing workshop. And level ground that fulfills its rhetorical purpose by keeping everyone on the same plane.Whatever your disability dating isn't something you should be missing out on!